Toxic People: How to Spot and Remove Them from Your Life

Hi, my name is Leif E. Greenz and I’m constantly surrounded by toxic people. In today’s episode of Toolbox Tuesday, I’ll explain how to spot and remove toxic people from your life.

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This is a long and heavy video! We’ll go over what makes a person toxic, why we’re attracted to toxic people, how to tell if someone is toxic, and how to remove the relationship from your life. I’ll also give a quick primer on trauma and betrayal bonds and explain the difference between a toxic person and an abuser.

Throughout this video, I reference Patrick Carnes and his book, “The Betrayal Bond: Breaking Free of Exploitive Relationships.” It’s available on Amazon!

Do you have any toxic people in your life? How does their toxicity manifest? What do you plan to do about it? Let me know in the comments.

Toxic people can be difficult to get away from, especially if they’re abusive. I know that my words can’t stop a betrayal bond from happening — in fact, I myself have been in many situations where people try to help and I can’t or won’t listen. That’s how strong these trauma bonds are. So please be gentle with yourself. This is a long, winding, and arduous process. You’re doing great.

I love you all so much. Be sure to subscribe to my channel for twice weekly updates from a professional crazy person!

Thanks for watching my video about how to spot and remove toxic people from your life. I’ll see you on Thursday for a video about mental illness and language.

xo,
Leif E. Greenz

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WHAT IS TOXIC EMPATHY? (BPD Relationships)

Hi, I’m Leif E. Greenz. In today’s video, I’ll be talking about how borderline personality disorder (BPD) and complex post-traumatic stress disorder (C-PTSD) can lead to what I call “toxic empathy,” which is essentially empathy that doesn’t serve you — or worse, empathy that destroys you.

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I’ve notoriously made friends with lots of shady characters who use, abuse, and exploit me. Why? What is it about toxic people that PTSD and BPD sufferers are so drawn to? Today, we’ll set out to find the answers.

In the second half of the video, I’ll discuss how to make room for healthier relationships. I’ll also introduce the dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) concept of relationship circles and help you decide which relationships should go where.

Thanks for watching. Please feel free to ask any questions or submit video requests in the comments and I’ll be sure to reply.

Love,

Leif E. Greenz